I remember reading somewhere that Dallas Willard used to ask himself each evening two powerful questions. "Have I been more or less irritable today? and have I been more or less hopeful today". I tried it and found it quite challenging!
Add this Carl Jung quote to the mix and it gets a whole lot more challenging! "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." C.G. Jung
unto you all hearts are open,
all desires known,
and from you no secrets are hid;
cleanse the thoughts of our hearts by the inspiration
of your Holy Spirit
that we may perfectly love you,
and worthily magnify your holy name;
through Christ our Lord.